THE FEMALE POINT OF VIEW : The Mysterious Case Of
Friend-Zone.
It starts as it always does. You meet a cute girl and start
hanging out together. She likes talking with you, she is
laughing at your jokes, and you think that she might be into
you, but you’re too afraid to make a move. Time goes by and
you’re still only friends. Finally you decide that it’s now or
never. You reveal your feelings. Then she delivers that oh-
so-familiar line: “Let’s just be friends.”
Ok, friendship is great, but is not what you want from this
pretty girl you can’t stop thinking about! Unfortunately, this
is not the first time this has happened. Sometimes you feel
afraid to make a move, because you already feel that you
are already in the “Friend Zone.” How to get out of the friend
zone and why are the girls you like always the ones that just
want to be friends?
From my observations, I can say that there are 2 reasons
why women friend-zone men:
FIRST SCENARIO. (Unfortunate but not hopeless): She’s
Not Into You.
It’s nobody’s fault. Like men, women have their own
preferences. Believe me, most of the times a woman’s idea
of the ‘perfect man’ is surprising even to her closest friends!
You can be the cutest guy on earth, smart, funny, with a
good-paying job, and even be extremely attractive to other
women, but sometimes THAT GIRL IS JUST NOT INTO YOU.
She might be flattered that you are flirting with her and she
may even respond to your attention in a flirtatious way. If
she is flirting, but only wants to stay friends, she probably
just enjoys male attention. If you are not completely her
type, she probably won’t go and take your relationship to
the “next level.” You might seem nice, intelligent, and funny
to her, but are simply not attractive enough. Sounds tough, I
know. Fortunately, there are some tricks I will share with
you that can use to change her mind.
First, some examples: My best friend is a totally gorgeous
girl. She’s intelligent, has an amazing smile and long legs.
She really could have any guy! But she was friend-zoning
almost every man who approached her. Sometimes there
were really hot guys showing interest in her, but she still
wasn’t interested in any of them. The reason was simple: she
liked only dark-skinned, muscular guys. I wouldn't say her current boyfriend is muscular Whenever cute guys
with a different kind of look approached her, she would be
friendly—she would flash her big smile and bat her
eyelashes, but she never went beyond that. She wouldn’t
compromise her tastes in a guy that didn’t match her type.
If you are physically or mentally the opposite of her type, –
for example, you are a cute, but quite short man, and she
happens to like tall ‘Viking type’ guys – I am sorry, it more
than likely will not work out. If you are bartender and she is
into guys that work in finance or at fancy consultancy firms,
it will be very difficult to get this girl. This could happen for
any number of reasons: You are obviously a playboy and
she likes decent, shy guys. You are an accountant but she is
only interested in artsy types.. That doesn’t mean there
aren’t any exceptions, but usually if you are not her type, it
will be changing her mind no matter what you do.
Perhaps you feel that this is not the case? Did she used to
date guys similar to you, and could she be into you, but
there is something you are always doing wrong?
SECOND SCENARIO. You are doing something wrong,
which made her begin to think of you only as a friend.
If this is the case, then there is good news. It’s possible to
change her mind and I am going to tell you how.
You can change her mind with these six easy steps:
1) Keep your cool and accept the situation
Don’t beg for her to give you a chance, EVER. She made a
conscious decision to not be anything more than friends
with you. You must play with the irrational, illogical side of
her personality. You’ll do much better if you start putting
less focus on her and more focus on you.
2) Focus on self-improvement
Nobody is perfect, so there is always a huge amount of
room for improvement. It gives us hope as well, right? Start
looking your best. Go to the gym and keep up a healthy diet.
Also, don’t forget about the intellectual side of things. Try to
be a hot and interesting person. If you feel more confident
about yourself, she will probably notice it. Girls love self-
confidence and after all, the special girl you want is just a
another girl.
3) Spend time with her doing regular things
No candles, dinner, watching sunset, listening to CD’s at your
place, etc. Just invite her out to do “friendly” things with you.
After all, this is exactly what she wanted, right? Go out and
do the things you would do yourself anyway, like going out
to buy new clothes and stuff like that. Shopping is actually a
good idea for 2 reasons. She will be happy to help you and
you will have a good opportunity to ‘accidently’ show her
some of your finely worked out body (see number 2). Every
situation that leaves some space for physical contact that
leaves her thinking about you are helpful in this situation.
Always try to emphasize your sexuality, but in a very polite,
seemingly unconscious way.
4) Hang out with other people and have fun
A little dose of jealousy never hurt anyone. It’s like fueling
her fire with desire. Without a little portion of it, any
relationship can get boring, so flirt with other women! A lot.
You can be the perfect guy, but she can’t know that she ‘has’
you. Ever. Even If you have revealed your feelings to her
directly or you have made it obvious to her, you should try
to attract other women too! You will become more valuable
in the mind of the girl you actually want. A twinge of
jealousy that comes from knowing other people find you
attractive is priceless. The old adage ‘never put all your eggs
in one basket’ is very true, so take advantage of it. Start
meeting other people. It will get her curious, but also help
you get some practice flirting. The more women you meet,
the better you become at playing the game and getting the
girl you want.
5) Finally, the difficult part, which probably you are
doing wrong: flirting
Never forget the importance of sexual attraction. Of course,
it’s less significant of an issue for women than for men, but
after all, we have certain needs. Start teasing her and giving
her compliments, but avoid elaborate, sophisticated ones.
For example, perfume is a safe subject. If she chooses to
wear perfume, it means she liked the scent, so it’s safe. It’s
also a very sensual compliment. Always avoid teasing or
discussing her age or weight. It can only go wrong.
6) Use sensual tricks
Touch her from time to time. I don’t mean grab her ass. I’m
talking about touching her arm casually. I know it’s difficult
for shy people, but if you play it cool, almost as though it’s
accidental, it can work. But always pay attention to how she
responds. Moderation is the best solution for everything.
All in all, you have to be a great observer. Pay attention to
her and see if her attitude towards you has changed. If you
see that she looks at you differently, touches you
sometimes, starts flirting with you herself, notices that you
work out, gets jealous when you are flirting with another
woman, then these are all good signs! She will probably not
make a move, so you must make it yourself. But she will
give you hints to encourage you.
The last resort:Leverage the friendship
If everything fails, accept the friendship with your crush. Try
to banish your romantic feelings for her as much as you can
and focus on being a good friend – and stand by your
decision. That way you are “just” a friend by YOUR own
choice, but by hers.
You might think “Why would I do that, I really want to be
more than just friends with her”. If you she absolutely,
positively and no circumstances reciprocates your feelings,
you just have to move on… and capitalize on the
opportunity to hook up with one of her friends! You are in
the perfect position to pull that off, because you have
earned the trust and social proof of your crush. Getting to
know one of her friend is a piece of cake from here. Just
don’t end up in the friend zone again
Its bad so there you have it The ILLEST saved ur ass again don't thank me its what I do saving souls
