Why?
Did her mum die?
Did her dad say he didn't have school fees money?
Everything na no!
Her boyfriend said she was too Fat!!
And she was crying that, he should be loving her after all thev been together and not saying she's fat
If she reads this I'm dead
Iv looked for a way to explain something to her, I couldn't find the words so I went online after hours I found this
Enjoy
Tinder Date.
On Monday I went on a first date with a man I met on Tinder. We met in a
pub. After a couple of drinks we moved on to a restaurant. He bought me
dinner. We strolled arm in arm on the South Bank. He walked me to the
train station, where we kissed. It wasn't earth-shattering, but all in all it was
a fairly standard Pleasant Evening.
The next day, I received the following message from him (be warned, it
gets pretty nasty).
Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today hun.
Thanks for a wonderful evening last night. I really enjoyed your
company and actually adore you. You're cheeky and funny and just the
sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let
me. But I fear it won't.
I'm not going to bull***t you... I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think
you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on
my someone slimmer.
Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read
a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you
love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more.
So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your
personality (and God...I really, really am), I can't say the same about
your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun
evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body
would let me down. I don't want that to happen baby. I don't want to be
lying there next to you, and you asking me why I'm not hard.
There are certain triggers that fire my imagination into life and your wit
and intelligence are the beginning of that process which would inevitably
end up in the bedroom. With just one result....
I'm so disappointed in myself Michelle because I've genuinely not felt this
way about anyone in ages, but I'm trying to be honest with you without
sounding like a total knobhead.
We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other
and.... f*** me... I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a
girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I
really really love it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm trying to avoid bigger pain in the
future by telling you now so we don't have to go through that
embarrassment. I'm a man... With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the
failings of a man and I'm sure of my own body and its needs.
Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx
It's taken me a few days to sit down and respond. I've been busy.
Dear Man I Met On Tinder.
I was on another date when I received your message. He returned from the
loo to find me in a flood of tears. He was lovely, but baffled, and hasn't
been in touch since, funnily enough.
You don't have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at
ruefully and think “you're lovely, but you just don't tickle my pickle”. We
wish we were attracted to them, but our bodies and our brains don't work
like that. And that's fine.
What isn't fine is the fact that, after a few hours in my company, you took
the time to write this utterly uncalled-for message. It's nothing short of
sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail
in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only
possible objective for writing it is to wound me.
And I'm ashamed to say, for a few moments, it worked. You stirred a
dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has – that it
doesn't matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate,
how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you're a stone
overweight, no one will ever find you desirable.
I like the way I look. I don't look like Charlize Theron, and that's fine - I
look like me, and I like myself (I'm sure I'd like Charlize Theron, too if I
ever met her. I hear good things).
You may think are all my profile pictures are "FGASs" (That's Fat Girl
Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl. Because
men only ever use candid, brutally-lit, unfiltered pics). But I think they're a
fair representation. And I'm pretty upfront about who I am: I describe
myself as a woman who loves pizza, and include links to my Instagram
page, where I have the #everybodysready bikini shots I took on my 30th
birthday. I like to think I come across as a confident, happy woman. But
could this be the very reason you have targeted me? Did you see me and
think “She has far too high an opinion of herself, she needs bringing down a
peg or two”? I have to ask - we all know the internet is a dangerous place to
be a woman with opinions (I discovered this first hand when I ventured a
response to those obnoxious bloody adverts).
I showed your message to friends who expressed shock, horror,
embarrassment on your behalf, and a desire to cause you actual physical
harm. One male friend told me I have a lovely bottom “if unmarriageable”.
I laughed with them. Then I cried in my Slimming World group. That's
right! Slimming World! You see, I already KNOW that I'm overweight. I
can tell you exactly how overweight I am – 20 pounds. I've already lost 15,
and I've a stone and a half to go. I'm happy with that. I will get rid of it,
safely and healthily. Does that mean that I can't love and enjoy my body
now? F*** no.
I'll never see or hear from you again (you may feel the need to respond to
this blog. Please don't. There's nothing you can say that will make me think
that you're not a disgrace to your gender).
What truly concerns me, the real reason I'm responding so publicly, is the
fact that you have a 13 year old daughter. A talented illustrator, who
collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.
I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body.
It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push
her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-
proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I'll be kind. I'll say “if”.) the time
comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as
I do now.
Simon.
Kiss.
My.
Exquisitely.
Unmarriagable.
Arse.
P.S. “Slip of a girl”? CHRIST ALIVE, that's creepy.
P.P.S. You're not 5'11
There you have it if your having the same problems too your welcome
To all of you that will say my boyfriend will not allow me or let me ask him first
You just got your third parental Guardian
